Deeper Than the Details
Emma & Ellie were nestled in the coffee house booth when Emma’s friend, Kat, walked in.
“Hey, what are you up to?” Emma asked.
“Just grabbing a latte after the protest,” Kat replied.
Ellie furrowed her eyebrows a bit and said, “The political protest on the square?”
“Yep,” Kat answered. “We’ve got to care for and support this part of society.”
“Helping people is the way to go,” Emma said, then noticed something on Kat’s arm. “New tat?”
Kat smiled and showed off the skull with a knife through the eye socket on her lower arm. “It is! What do you think? I like it but my parents say it’s a little gruesome.”
Ellie raised one eyebrow, silently agreeing with Kat’s parents.
Emma chuckled and shook her head. “It’s definitely you, and you know I love you.”
Kat chuckled and leaned over to Ellie. “I’m trying to talk her into getting one, something harmless like a bunny.” She winked at Emma and checked the time on her phone. “Okay, gotta run. I’ll see you next week. Love you, too, and it was good to meet you, Ellie.”
“Same here,” Ellie replied, trying to not sound sarcastic. Kat walked to the counter to order.
Ellie leaned forward in the booth. “Who was that?”
“She’s my old roommate’s sister,” Emma replied. “We always got along better than the roommate and I did. She’s fun and interesting.”
Ellie shook her head. “But you guys are complete opposites from each other in politics, lifestyle, and religion.”
“Yeah, but those are details.”
Ellie sat back in her seat. “Pretty big details. Do you just avoid talking about those subjects?”
“No, we talk about them, but Kat isn’t just her politics or spiritual views. She is my friend and I love her for ALL the things she is. To focus on the one or two I’m not as comfortable with denies me the privilege of knowing her as a whole person.”
Ellie’s eyes widened. “Doesn’t it infuriate you when she gets heated up about her politics?”
“I don’t focus on how her politics differ from mine. If I did, I probably would get mad, but it wouldn’t be worth it to lose an awesome friend. We go deeper than the details. Yes, she is passionate about her politics, but that’s head stuff. I focus on her heart, no matter what direction her passion takes.”
“What do you have in common if not the details?"
“We didn’t think we had much in common at first, but the more we got to know each other, the more we realized we share hopes, dreams, fears, wounds. It turns out we have a lot more in common than not. That is what bonds us.”
Ellie pondered this. “I guess, with you and me, we share many of the same details but also quite a few of the deeper things as well.”
Emma smiled. “Absolutely. And I love you both.”
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5/19/2017 09:24:35 am
Awesome my friend! I'm sending this to my son. Love, Love, Love!
5/20/2017 11:26:46 pm
I try but often fail to not be judgmental. What a great reminder that different is not necessarily wrong. And if we don't explore the "differenences in people we may be missing out on a great friend and wonderful experiences.
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